Love the Way you Lie

Last year, the fight between Chris Brown and Rhianna was all people could talk about. It was seemingly unexpected and of course it shed light on the issue of domestic violence. Luckily for Rhianna, the injuries that she sustained from the fight were not as serious as they could have been and she had a fairly level head on her shoulders when dealing with the situation. If you dont remember the controversy, go here to refresh your memory.

I found this picture, and it isnt even that great of one of what she looked like after the fight. Obviously, the big sunglasses are obscuring what she really looked like.

Rhianna has recently put out a song with Eminem that I am admittedly a little obsessed about. I think it has a lot of meaning that many people can relate to. The song is all about the push and pull of a relationship and how even though you know a relationship probably isnt the best thing for you, sometimes it is hard to escape those types of circumstances. Below are the lyrics to the song:

[Chorus - Rihanna]
Just gonna stand there and watch me burn
Well that's all right because I like the way it hurts
Just gonna stand there and hear me cry
Well that's all right because I love the way you lie
I love the way you lie

[Eminem - Verse 1]
I can't tell you what it really is, I can only tell you what it feels like
And right now it's a steel knife in my windpipe
I can't breathe but I still fight while I can fight
As long as the wrong feels right it's like I'm in flight
High off her love, drunk from my hate, it's like I'm huffin' pain
And I love it the more I suffer, I suffocate
And right before I'm about to drown, she resuscitates me, she ******* hates me
And I love it, "wait, where you goin'?"
"I'm leavin' you," "no you ain't come back"
We're runnin' right back, here we go again
So insane, cause when it's goin' good it's goin' great
I'm superman with the wind at his back, she's Lois Lane
But when it's bad it's awful, I feel so ashamed I snap
Whose that dude? I don't even know his name
I laid hands on her
I'll never stoop so low again
I guess I don't know my own strength

[Chorus]
Just gonna stand there and watch me burn
Well that's all right because I like the way it hurts
Just gonna stand there and hear me cry
Well that's all right because I love the way you lie
I love the way you lie

[Eminem - Verse 2]
You ever love somebody so much you can barely breathe
When you with em you meet and neither one of you even know what hit em
Got that warm fuzzy feeling
Yeah them chills used to get em
Now you're getting ******* sick of lookin' at em
You swore you'd never hit em, never do nothin' to hurt em
Now you're in each other's face spewin' venom in your words when you spit em
You push pull each other's hair
Scratch claw hit em throw em down pin em
So lost in the moments when you're in em
It's the rage that's the culprit, controls you both
So they say it's best to go your seperate ways
Guess that they don't know ya
Cause today that was yesterday
Yesterday is over, it's a different day
Sound like broken records playin' over
But you promised her next time you'll show restraint
You don't get another chance
Life is no nintendo game, but you lied again
Now you get to watch her leave out the window
Guess that's why they call it window pane

[Chorus]
Just gonna stand there and watch me burn
Well that's all right because I like the way it hurts
Just gonna stand there and hear me cry
Well that's all right because I love the way you lie
I love the way you lie

[Eminem - Verse 3]
Now I know we said things, did things, that we didn't mean
And we fall back into the same patterns, same routine
But your temper's just as bad as mine is, you're the same as me
When it comes to love you're just as blinded
Baby please come back, it wasn't you, baby it was me
Maybe our relationship isn't as crazy as it seems
Maybe that's what happens when a tornado meets a volcano
All I know is I love you too much to walk away though
Come inside, pick up the bags off the sidewalk
Don't you hear sincerity in my voice when I talk?
Told you this is my fault, look me in the eyeball
Next time I'm p****** I'll aim my fist at the drywall
Next time there won't be no next time
I apologize even though I know it's lies
I'm tired of the games I just want her back
I know I'm a liar if she ever tries to ******* leave again
I'ma tie her to the bed and set this house on fire
Just gonna

[Chorus]
Just gonna stand there and watch me burn
Well that's all right because I like the way it hurts
Just gonna stand there and hear me cry
Well that's all right because I love the way you lie
I love the way you lie


More lyrics: http://www.lyricsmode.com/lyrics/e/eminem/#share

I can relate to the push and pull of this relationship. No, I have never been in a relationship that has been violent or anything, but I have definitely been in a relationship that is not good for me. I have definitely been sucked back into a relationship by false promises and the comfort of a familiar relationship.

But let's get to the real issue. I have linked the video to this song and I want you to watch it and just react to it.

Seriously Rhianna? I mean your face was plastered all over every news show, every tabloid, all over the internet looking all kinds of beat up and here you are promoting this type of domestic abuse? What is wrong with you? Maybe this is your way of dealing with your issues, I have no idea... but after what you have been through in your relationship, I would think that this kind of video would be the last thing that you would agree to do. Don't glamorize domestic abuse (of females or males). Don't make it seem ok because you love the way someone lies to you or the pain they bring you. Yes, these are real emotions and this really happens on a day to day basis with women, but we should be educating women to find healthy ways of recognizing the signs and getting out of these relationships instead of promoting it in a rap video. Can someone please explain to me the logic?!